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The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Nevada Domestic Violence Hotline:
VINE is a free, anonymous, 24-hour, computer-based telephone service provided by the State of Nevada. VINE allows victims two important features: information and notification.
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence.
Domestic violence can include physical, emotional, psychological, economic, and/or sexual abuse. Abusers use threats, intimidation, isolation, and other behaviors to gain and maintain power over their victims.
Domestic violence can affect anyone, regardless of income, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity or religion. One in four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. Domestic violence occurs in same-sex relationships, and men can be victims as well.
Fear for Leaving
If you are in a domestic violence situation the decision to leave is often a difficult one. There are many obstacles that can stand in the way of a woman trying to leave an abusive relationship that must first be overcome to achieve safety. Talking about some of these factors with a support worker can help to assist you in overcoming these barriers. Some of the reasons it may be difficult to leave may include:
Fear for safety
- Fear of what he will do when he finds out you have left.
- Fear he will carry out a threat to harm or kill you, your children, your pets or others.
- Fear he will carry out his threat to commit suicide if you leave.
- Fear you won’t be able to take care of yourself and the children alone.
Isolation from others
- Fear of being alone or that no-one will understand or believe you.
- Fear of being rejected by family and friends.
- If you are in a same sex relationship, you may fear you will be “outed” or no one will believe you.
Pressures about the children
- You believe children need two parents and don’t want to raise them alone.
- You believe you cannot give the children the same lifestyle they are accustomed to.
- Fear your children will be taken from you by a welfare agency or children’s services.
Promises from your partner
- You believe that things will get better.
- You believe that no one else will love you.
- You believe others will think you are stupid for staying as long as you have.
Pressures from cultural or religious communities
- You want to try to keep the family together and live up to your religious commitment to remain with your partner.
Pressure from family and friends to stay
- You feel ashamed, embarrassed and humiliated and you don’t want anyone to know what is happening.
- You are financially dependent on your partner for shelter, food and other necessities and you don’t know how you would cope alone.
- You fear you may lose your children in a ‘custody’ battle.
- You are worried about going to court and having to tell what has happened.
- Are You in an Abusive Relationship?
- Are you ever afraid of your partner?
- Does your partner threaten to hurt you?
- Does your partner control all the money?
- Has your partner ever pushed you or shoved you, thrown things at you, or forced you to have sex?
- Does your partner stalk you or show up uninvited at your job or when you’re out with friends?
If you said yes to one or more of these questions, you may be a victim of domestic violence. You are not alone, and help is available.
If you’re in a violent or abusive relationship, what can you do to keep yourself safe? For some survivors of domestic violence, developing a plan ahead of time is helpful to have in the event of another violent episode or when they feel emotionally overwhelmed. A plan may be helpful when it is hard to think clearly in the middle of a crisis. Each survivor’s situation is unique, so every safety plan is different. A good safety plan changes over time, as your situation changes.
Safety Strategies To consider
Here are some ideas that you can consider, strategies that other survivors may have included in their plans. These ideas do not cover every possible scenario; and you may find that some may or may not work for you. It is your decision whether to make a safety plan, and what to include if you do make one. It may help to speak with a leader in the domestic violence field. You should also consider where you can safety keep this plan so your abuser does not have access to it.
Talk With People You Trust
Let friends, family, neighbors and co-workers know what is happening and talk about ways they might be able to help.
Increase safety during an argument or if you can tell abuse is coming. For example, some rooms in your home may be safer than others. Some survivors try to move away from the kitchen because it has knives and other many sharp objects. Others also try to avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, near weapons or in rooms without access to the front door.
Memorize Emergency Contacts
If it is an emergency, please call 911 immediately! It is also good to memorize a friend’s or family member’s phone number, or the local hotline. Other resources include the VINE Hotline: 1-888-2NV-VINE, the Nevada Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-500-1556 and National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Keep in mind that the person hurting you could take your cell phone from you, so memorizing numbers or keeping a list of numbers somewhere safe may be helpful.
If you live in an apartment building, make sure you know all the ways out of the building. Consider what routes you could take to get to transportation, and where you could go to get to safety. You could learn how to get to a local police station, fire department, hospital emergency room, or 24-hour store. Keep your vehicle fuel tank full at all times.
Talk With Children About Your Safety
Some survivors teach their children how to call 911, or talk with them about a neighbor’s home or place in the community that may be a safe place to go in an emergency.
Prep An Emergency Bag
You may want to put together a bag that includes money, copies of house and car keys, medicine, and copies of important papers such as birth certificates, social security cards, immigration documents, court orders, and health insurance information. The bag could also include extra clothes, important phone numbers, or other things you might need if you had to leave your home in a hurry. If you prepare an emergency bag, you may be able to keep it at a trusted friends or family member’s home. If you have decided to prepare an emergency bag, and have a place in mind where you can safely keep it, here is a checklist to help you decide what to put in the bag.
Stallman Touro Medical Clinic
Basic healthcare, acute care with the management of chronic illness, women’s health and the healthcare of the children who reside at the facility.
Individualized Case Management
Each person who comes to The Shade Tree is provided with a case manager who creates an individualized case plan.
Daily Breakfast, Lunch & Dinner Service
Our kitchens provide nutritious, wholesome and delicious meals for our residents and those who come in for emergency shelter or due to inclement weather.
Children’s Activity Center (CAC)
Kid-friendly accommodations and an interactive learning environment for the children residing at the facility.
The Victim’s Services provides critical assistance to victims of domestic violence, sexual assault/sexual abuse, street crime, and victims of elder abuse. The Victim’s Services assists victims with obtaining Temporary Protective Orders, applying for Victim’s Compensation, 9-1-1 telephones, accompanies victims to court, refer them to resources to maneuver through the legal process, and accessing services that may be needed due to situations of violence. With the help of a Victims’ Advocate, each client develops a “safety plan” to help reduce the risk of future violence. Group meetings are conducted weekly on-site by staff and volunteers to provide educational and emotional support.
Mental Health Service Coordination
Mental Health Service Coordination is provided by an experienced mental health staff member addressing mental health issues presented by our clients, making referrals to other community agencies as needed and serving as liaison to community based mental health programs. Residents who enter the shelter and are already under the care of a mental health professional are provided the necessary support and transportation to continue those services while living at the shelter.
Noah’s Animal House
Noah’s Animal House is a pet sanctuary for shelter residents that allow women to escape abusive situations without leaving behind their pet. In homes where there is violence, pets are often threatened or injured by the violent partner. It is not uncommon for an abuser to continue to control the relationship using the family pet. Noah’s is the first full service facility of its kind located on the grounds of the women’s shelter in the western region of the United States.
Emergency Shelter Program
The only 24-hour accessible program in Southern Nevada designed specifically to meet the needs of the homeless (up to a 90-day stay).
Nearly 60 on-site courses designed to enhance job skill development and career placement.
Workforce Readiness Program
Designed to prepare women for training programs, work-readiness demeanor, and personal image instruction to re-enter the job market at a self-sustaining wage.
Inclement Weather Shelter
Winter Evening Shelter: Clients have a safe place to rest during the coldest months of the year. Winter shelter includes a hot dinner and breakfast as well as access to showers, mail, laundry facility, bed, and clothing. Hours of operation 6p.m. to 8a.m.
Summer Day Shelter: Clients can have a safe place to rest seven days a week during the hottest months of the year. Summer day shelter includes two meals a day, showers, mail, laundry facility, bed, and clothing. Hours of operation 11a.m. to 7p.m.
Housing Assistance and advocacy begins during the initial intake process because of the importance of connecting families with affordable housing. A full-time Housing Specialist assists residents with completing applications for public/subsidized housing and helps eligible residents find quality affordable housing. Residents are also offered Housing I and Housing II classes, which are taught by the Housing Specialist through our Life Skills Program. These classes provide information and guidance that will help them secure and retain affordable and safe housing.